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It happens to the best of us: You have a hater, and it gnaws at you. Someone says just the right thing to ruin your day, and no matter how many compliments you get, you can't shake it off. Keep 99% of your focus on the positive voices.
Over at Personal Excellence, they explain why we tend to focus on the negative voices in our life:
The thing is many of us tend to allocate our attention to critical , rude , abrasive , and fussy people – people with "loud" comments, "loud" reactions – because they tend to be the loudest people we know. After all, what's more audible will get our attention, and what gets our attention will get our time and energy.
It's like what I wrote before in Are You Focusing on the Black Dot?: when there's a black dot on a piece of white paper, our attention naturally goes to the black dot that's the contrasting spot on the otherwise pure surface.
To quiet those loud reactions, focus on the positive compliments. If you keep 99% of your focus on those positive compliments, you'll be able to see that negative reaction as just one voice.
This loud noise isn't about constructive criticism. That's helpful, although hard to take. This noise is the loud people who have nothing constructive to add.
Check out the link for other ideas on dealing with your haters and getting on with your day
Are You Giving Your Attention to Empty Vessels? | Personal Excellence
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